Social Map: Organizer to Cultivator
Dependable and reliable, these two have more in common than one may think.
Dependable and reliable, these two have more in common than one may think.
Both Organizers and Cultivators enjoy pouring into other people, but that love manifests in different ways for each Connection Style. How does an Organizer interact with a Cultivator?
In this Organizer to Cultivator social map, we’ll highlight the strengths and hurdles Organizers may face in connection with each other, as well as best practices for conversations and interactions.
Summary
The similarities between Organizers and Cultivators are more than you might suspect. Both are consistent and dependable friends. Their loyalty to the people in their life means they can be relied upon to “show up” when it matters. And because Cultivators are very careful about who they let into their chosen family, an Organizer can rest assured knowing the Cultivator wants them in their life. Cultivators are good at accepting people where they’re at, a beneficial personality trait for a more rigid, misunderstood type like the Organizer.
But these two also have clashing styles of communication. The Organizer’s and the Cultivator’s ability to compartmentalize areas of their life mean they are able to diffuse tension from more complicated issues that may arise, but their connection may only exist on the surface level. Deep conversations (a hallmark of the Cultivator) may not happen between these two Connection Style.
Finding a point of connection—a shared interest—is key to the development of the relationship between Organizers and Cultivators. Sometimes, this means the connection may not be as rich as it can be with other Connection Styles. But that doesn’t mean the connection is not valid or authentic.
Strengths and Hurdles
Strengths
— Organizers and Cultivators are reliable and loyal. Each Connection Style can always depend on the other to show up when it matters most.
— Organizers are often misunderstood, but Cultivators, who can see people for who they are, are more likely to accept an Organizer’s more confusing quirks (that is, of course, if the Cultivator chooses to add them to their chosen family).
Hurdles
— While both Organizers and Cultivators are good at compartmentalizing areas of their life, this can also make it difficult for these two Connection Styles to form a deeper bond. They may choose to keep things at the surface level, especially if they do not have a shared interest.
What to Do
Find common ground.
Why it works: Organizers and Cultivators will likely always keep their chosen methods of communication. But that doesn’t mean these two Connection Styles can’t come together. This relationship works best when Organizers and Cultivators have a shared interest. Spend time with Cultivators to see what makes them tick, then lean into the interests or passions of theirs that match your own.
What to Say
“I know you enjoy hiking, so I made a list of the best hiking spots within the next 50 miles.”
Why it works: Cultivators enjoy one-on-one time as well as deep interests. Finding common ground about something they’re passionate about is a great way to break the ice and strengthen your bond. Utilize your skills for action and show them you care through planning around their interest.
Recommendations
“How to Be a Better Listener”: Becoming a better listener requires empathy and active, rather than passive, participation.
“How to Strengthen Your Friendships”: Building friendships may seem challenging, no matter the age.
“How to Nourish Your Friendships”: Making friends is difficult, and knowing how to nourish those friendships is an additional challenge.