Social Map: Organizer to Truth Teller
Practical and perceptive, Organizers and Truth Tellers are a natural fit.
Practical and perceptive, Organizers and Truth Tellers are a natural fit.
Organizers are caring and committed. Truth Tellers are loyal and perceptive. How can these two deepen their relationship?
In this Organizer to Truth Teller social map, we’ll highlight the strengths and hurdles Organizers may face in connecting with Truth Tellers, as well as best practices for conversations and interactions.
Summary
Organizers and Truth Tellers share many traits. They are both loyal and straightforward. Neither one is passive-aggressive, meaning conflicts can be settled quickly. Organizers and Truth Tellers also both like to get involved in the lives of those they love. They want the best for their people, although they have different interpretations of what “the best” means.
Organizers want to be involved in a person’s day-to-day life, using their practical skills to improve the lives of those they love. Truth Tellers are more subjective, with a deeper interest in where their friends grow, change and evolve over time.
Organizers and Truth Tellers are also perceptive, but they may struggle with being diplomatic. Both Connection Styles are matter-of-fact, which can read as “blunt.” But Organizers use their actions more than their words to communicate, showing love through remembered dates, rides to the airport and soup when a loved one is ill. This differs from Truth Tellers who are all about language. Truth Tellers don’t hold back if you’ve done something they perceive as wrong. If conflict arises, Organizers can take comfort in the honesty of the Truth Teller. They will always know where they stand. And their shared loyalty will make them want to work it out, together.
Organizers may also struggle with the Truth Teller if they cancel plans at the last minute. Truth Tellers prioritize their own needs. Organizers may feel hurt if a Truth Teller doesn’t honor their commitments. Organizers need to confront such conflicts head on, rather than nursing any hurt. Truth Tellers can handle (and occasionally welcome) direct confrontation.
Organizers and Truth Tellers are a natural fit. If Organizers can manage the occasional conflict of befriending a Truth Teller, they’re sure to have a friendship that lasts.
Strengths and Hurdles
Strengths
— Organizers and Truth Tellers both want the best for those in their lives, and don’t mind getting involved in the details of a loved one’s life.
— Organizers and Truth Tellers aren’t passive aggressive and won’t avoid conflict, if they need to discuss something.
— Organizers can help Truth Tellers be more dependable, and Truth Tellers can help Organizers be less rigid.
Hurdles
— If Organizers are unwilling to see the Truth Teller’s perspective, it may cause issues. Likewise, if Truth Tellers behave in an unreliable manner, Organizers may feel hurt or let down.
What to Do
See each other’s point of view.
Why it works: If Truth Tellers and Organizers work to see each other’s point of view, they’ll avoid issues. Organizers need to be willing to see through the blunt language of the Truth Teller. And Truth Tellers need to see the love behind an Organizer’s actions. By actively seeing one another’s perspective, they’ll create a foundation for honest and open conversation between each other.
What to Say
“I love hearing your perspective.”
Why it works: Truth Tellers express their love by being honest with those they care about. They’ll call you out if they see something wrong. Let them know you value the way they show their love. They’ll appreciate it.
Recommendations
“How to Stay Resilient”: Being emotionally healthy is grounded in tolerating conflict and discomfort.
“How to be Vulnerable”: Sharing the depth of your emotions is difficult, but it is foundational to a strong relationship.
“How to Express Loving Kindness”: Expressing empathy and kindness deepens relationships and makes space for vulnerability.