Social Map: Truth Teller to Truth Teller
Truth Tellers are loyal and value-driven. If they can dive into their empathy toward each other, they can face anything that comes their way.
Truth Tellers are loyal and value-driven. If they can dive into their empathy toward each other, they can face anything that comes their way.
Truth Tellers are guided by their principles and values. If they share the same truth with other Truth Tellers, they can be a force. How can Truth Tellers strengthen their relationship?
In this Truth Teller to Truth Teller social map, we’ll highlight the strengths and hurdles Truth Tellers may face in connecting with one another, as well as best practices for conversations and interactions.
Summary
Truth Tellers value honesty and don’t mind conflict. They aren’t afraid to get involved and have loyalty to the ones they love. And if two Truth Tellers share the same worldview, they’re likely to have a strong and long-lasting connection.
Problems arise if Truth Tellers share a difference of opinion. Their differences could create divisions, and it may be hard for them to find common ground once these differences are revealed. Truth Tellers are passionate and firm in their version of what is right and true. This passion can sometimes tip over into stubbornness. This, combined with a shared love of debate, can turn friendly conversations into active fights. Truth Tellers need to know when to take a step back to avoid situations from escalating.
Truth Tellers will need to dive into their own empathy to resolve conflicts. Learn to take a beat when tensions start to flare. Consider why your loved one is seeing things from a different perspective. If Truth Tellers can learn to be kinder to themselves (and one another), they’ll be able to maintain their relationships, even in times of struggle. The loyalty of Truth Tellers may even help them solve long-standing rifts or come together after a period of separation.
Strengths and Hurdles
Strengths
— Truth Tellers are loyal and unlikely to give up on relationships without fighting for it first. And, with neither one afraid of conflict, they’ll talk it out before walking away.
— Truth Tellers want a whole-person relationship. Both Truth Tellers will value knowing someone completely.
Hurdles
— Truth Tellers are driven by their principles. If the standards and vision of two Truth Tellers don’t align, they may run into issues that seem unresolvable. Finding common ground may seem impossible.
— Truth Tellers need to work hard to access their empathy, particularly for people with points of view that don’t align with their own. Truth Tellers sometimes shy away from their more tender emotions due to fear or defensiveness. They’ll need to access those parts of themselves to resolve their conflicts with other Truth Tellers.
What to Do
Keep talking honestly.
Why it works: Truth Tellers value honesty. This is a relationship where you can bring your whole self and know it will be appreciated. Truth Tellers can be confident that this relationship is one in which they can speak their mind.
Dive into your more tender emotions.
Why it works: By having empathy for each other and kindness for yourself, Truth Tellers will be able to resolve conflicts that they otherwise could not. It will be important to put aside your defensiveness to resolve arguments. Truth Teller passion can sometimes mask vulnerabilities. Be willing to look at your own reactions. If you’re responding very passionately to something, consider that it may be a tender spot for you. Reframe things from your own emotional perspective, rather than declaring things black-and-white.
What to Say
“I love that I can just say how I feel with you./I love that you always tell me the truth.”
Why it works: Truth Tellers value authenticity. Truth Tellers will appreciate being acknowledged for their desire and ability to hear and share the unvarnished truth. By acknowledging this shared strength, you’ll let the Truth Teller know you appreciate the ways they show love.
Recommendations
“How to Be More Empathetic”: Seeing and acknowledging other points of view is one of the first steps towards better expressing empathy.
“How to Be Vulnerable”: Vulnerability is its own strength and can be a superpower in this relationship.
“What to Say: Apologies”: An honest and sincere apology can be the next step in a wonderful friendship